This new age of dating apps and getting to know each other online can be an exciting but also daunting experience. You can find people who like the same things as you, whether that be horses or anal vibrators.

The downside is finding the right people and avoiding the red flags. Overall, it can be a hard space to navigate but Flirt are here to help. Read on for a few tips in helping you find your next soulmate or playmate. 

The Apps

Everything is fast and hard, and unless you like it like that, it can be overwhelming at the best of times. Swiping left and right or receiving intimate questions straight off the bat can make building true intimacy hard. Due to this fast-paced world of technology, people want to spend less and less time searching for “the one” or the one who will warm their bed for the night. 

The apps can make people lazy, but they can also help you find exactly who you’re looking for. There are many LGBTQ+ friendly apps out there such as Grindr, Scruff, BiCupid and more. There are also apps to help you find someone into the same fetishes and kinks as you, such as Feeld. 

Be 100% Open 

Whether you want a one-night stand or are looking for your future spouse, no one cares as long as you’re honest. There’s nothing worse than going on a date to find out they were looking for their soulmate and you were just looking for some fun or vice versa. Be 100% open about what you’re looking for on the apps. 

If you’re looking for commitment, be honest about who you are and the type of person you’re looking for. Don’t lie and say you like hiking if you hate the outdoors because you think it will get you a fit partner. The same goes for saying you like cooking when you can barely boil an egg. The point is, be open about what you want and who you are, and the right person will find you!  

Set Boundaries 

A very important one to do before you jump on the apps is set boundaries! These apps are designed to be addictive and often, you will become obsessed with swiping and using them. Set aside time each day to use them instead of checking them all day, everyday.

Keep a limit on the number of dates you go on per week as you can easily become burnt out. This means you may not be giving your best self to those who you are meeting. This can also cause confusion among the people you’re dating as you can quickly mistake a date for another by accident. 

Safety 

Ensure your first dates are ALWAYS in a public area. This can be a walk or coffee but keeping it public keeps you safe. You don't know this person so ensure you meet them IRL before heading back to either person’s place. Stay safe and message a friend where you are going and even the address of the person’s place if you plan to go back. 

Be Patient

Your right person may not come along for months or even years but don’t give up hope! There are plenty of fish on the apps so don’t expect the first, second, third or heck, even the 20th date to be the one. You’ll probably have some fun along the way and if you end up not getting what you’re after, you’ve got Flirt to give you a helping hand when you get home.